Courtship dating sample
Single persons who want to get married are in this same situation.
They are putting themselves out there to sample in hopes to find a buyer.
It is a practice run of making the formal decision to forsake all others on the day you exchange vows.
In courtship, you do forsake all others, but not as a vow, but rather as a trial run.
Because it means exclusivity, courtship needs to be a short period of time, and have a definitive end. Otherwise, you risk hurting each other in a way you do not wish to, but can simply because you are not yet married.
It risks looking like and acting like you are married, when you have not formally made the commitment.
Another reason courtship is usually entered into when both are pretty certain they have found the one is because the reality of starting over from scratch with a new person and going through the process again is draining and deflating. When you have done it once, you are not inclined to do it again. So courtship should not be used interchangeably with dating, and should not be entered into lightly.
It risks giving in to the temptation to do that one thing reserved ONLY to married couples because you become so used to each other and, what the heck, you love each other and are practically married anyway, so why not?
At the practical level, you want to be in courtship for a short time, with the agreement to get engaged or end the relationship at the end of that time period.
However, if it the courtship does not work out, you have avoid rushing into a marriage that you may likely have regretted later.
Courtship, as a process, ensures that all the right steps have been taken and all the right things have been talked about in order to come to the closest conclusion possible that you are in love and want to spend the rest of your life with this person.